Hello Loves. Life has been at a place that I am not familiar. I've had so much going on. Despite it all, despite of myself, God is still good. He keeps me when I don't have the drive to keep myself. I can't complain. I am grateful for the good, the bad, and the ugly. The year has brought me more disappointments than triumphs, but I count it all joy. I can't do anything but be positive, that's all I know. People depend on my positive energy, and my positive direction. I have to depend on God to give me the words to speak to my friends. So many people are hurting. So much pain is being caused by the one's we love. Relationship issues have become so prominent on the distress list. Everything that glitters is not gold. Just because people want you to think that they are happy in their relationship, does not mean that you should be fooled by the fakeness. When people seem OVERLY happy, they are usually unhappy. Relationships are hard, they take work. Marriage will not resolve anything if you are unevenly yoked.
Marriages that are ordained by God, are a gift from God. All marriages are NOT ordained by God. People get married for the wrong reasons, to the wrong person, everyday. This is happening in the church, more than the world. The divorce rate of saved people is much higher than that of people who do not claim to be saved. Why? People are getting married to appease the church. To appease their mate. Or just to say that they are married. Marriage is serious. It was not created so that divorce can be existent. Nowadays, you can't have one without the other. Or can you?
When you allow God to lead you to your mate, divorce wouldn't be an option. It is not acceptable for a woman to propose to a man, according to God. The proposal is the responsibility of the man and the man alone. When a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. I understand that some are saying, well my wife or fiance didn't propose to me. That may be so. But, if she nagged you, kept throwing hints, and suggested to you that the two of you should be married, she may as well have proposed. If a man proposes to a woman to appease her, this is not acceptable unto God. Proposing to make her feel secure is the foundation for an unstable, unhealthy, and failed marriage. Do it God's way. If your heart is with someone else, you need to be with that person. Why spend the rest of your life with someone, knowing that your love for someone else is greater. KNOW for yourself what direction God is telling you to go. KNOW for yourself what's a distraction. KNOW for yourself when YOU are required to step up to the plate and claim the one that God desires you to be with. That was for the men. The rules are a little different for women.
Ladies, even though we are living in a time where our society is pushing equal rights and male/female equality, the word has not changed. It will not return void. It will do just what it was set out to do. Allow God to send you your husband. Throwing hints to your man is just a subtle way of asking him to marry you. If he wants to marry you, he will tell you. His proposal should be confirmation of what God has already told you. Well, that is if you are connected to God the way you should be. Proposing to a man is not God's way. Nagging a man into marriage is not God's way. Questioning a man about his past until he proposes to you, just to appease you, is not God's way. Let a man be a man. He doesn't need any help in that area. Your marriage will be prosperous for it. Your marriage will have peace because of it. It doesn't matter how good a man may seem, if he is not following Christ, he is not a man that you should desire to marry.
Man is the head of HIS house. God is the head of man. This is written. If this is not the hierarchy of what's evident in your man, wait on the Lord. For the men, if she is not a true, undeniable follower of Christ, and you are, how can you possibly expect her to follow you? Church on Sunday, cussing like a sailor on Monday. Love you and your children to your face, but despise your children behind your back. Never has time or a dime to help you when you are down, but the first one with her hand out when God Blesses you with overflow. KNOW what you are getting into BEFORE the nuptials. God will give you insight and discernment when it comes to these things. He will not leave you to make decisions alone. The hardest decisions are the easiest one's to mess up.
When you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, you should have already decided to allow Christ to lead you. The decision is made even before the proposal. The decision is made even before the proposal is accepted. When a man proposes to a woman, he should be ready to marry her even before he proposes. When a woman accepts a proposal, she should be ready to get married even before she accepts the proposal. The devil tries to be in the details of anything holy. Know that he is standing there watching you whenever you try to do what's right and good. Knowing is half the battle. If you know that God will never leave you or forsake you, then you have to be willing to recognize that sometimes cold feet is not cold feet. It can be God tugging at you telling you not to do what you are about to do. Saying I do is the easiest thing in the world. STAYING I do is where the challenge lies. The devil can give a false sense of security and love to distract us from what God desires us to have. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. Some reservations are red flags. Some red flags are stop signs. God will make every attempt to stop you from making the same mistake TWICE. You have to be at a Spiritual place to know that it's Him. Get to that Spiritual place and stay there. If God didn't tell you to marry this person, then why are you? When God is in it, you can celebrate getting married. When God is not in it, you will get married just to celebrate.
